Nothing hurts more than arguing with the ones you love. Your loved ones have known you the longest and know which buttons to push to hurt you, and when. Flare ups among the ones you love the most will happen. They’re inevitable considering the amount of time you will spend with the person. But in 2013, it’s time to move beyond the argument and into a place of love. Here’s how:

1. Acknowledge The Hurt

There’s nothing worse than pretending that nothing happened. Suppressing what occurred only gives it an opportunity to resurface later. You have to acknowledge what happened head on if you want to move beyond the situation.

2. Look At Yourself

Sometimes we focus on what hurt us in an argument instead of the other person’s reasons for arguing with us. What did YOU do to contribute to another person’s pain? How can YOU change to accommodate the feelings of another? Take your emotions out of the equation, and review the ways YOU can change.

3. Accept Change

In order to properly move forward, both parties must anticipate that things will change, and be willing to make the necessary changes to accommodate one another. Move beyond the hurt and into a place of love.

Stay in love in 2013